There are common phrases and words you'll hear used repeatedly in healing and spiritual circles. If you are new to healing you may find yourself asking: But what does that actually mean? Let's address some of the most common terms below.
1. Be committed. We are multi-layered beings and healing happens in layers. It's unrealistic to think you can come to a session having never previously worked on yourself and expect to heal 10 or more years' worth of suffering in 60 minutes. Commit to the process. There is no finish line in healing, you are never truly done. You will be learning and growing always, constantly adapting and integrating.
2. Your facilitator is not your friend. You would never call up your doctor outside of business hours to hang out or expect to linger after your appointment for a personal chat. When doing spiritual energy work you are experiencing a high vibration and a joyful one. You are opening up more so than usual and sharing a vulnerable and intimate experience with a stranger. People often confuse the healer as being their source of joy. But it's important to remember that they are a facilitator and not a friend. Having professional boundaries is essential to a healthy client/healer relationship.
3. If you are friends or family of a healer, treat it as if you weren't. Respectfully ask if the healer is comfortable working with family and friends. If so, follow their regular booking method like every other client. Pay up front without them having to ask. Don't ask for or expect a discount and don't expect them to rearrange their schedule and rush you in. If they offer a discount or do make space outside of business hours, make sure the agreement is clear, and be sure to acknowledge the gesture with a thank you afterwards. Otherwise, you can risk hurting the relationship by not respecting their time, energy and services.
4. Do your research. Some people book a service without reading the website or understanding what a session involves. You will get more out of a session if you show up with a general understanding of the healer, the service they provide, and what to expect during an appointment. Being prepared allows you to enter into a session and get right down to work, maximizing your time, as opposed to spending time going through unnecessary explanations.
5. Make a personal choice. It's common for people to recommend a healer or service they have had a great experience with, or for people to ask a healer for a recommendation. But just because that service or healer worked for someone else, doesn't mean it is necessarily the right fit for you. And just because a healer gives you a name or recommendation doesn't mean they know what is best for you. Be sure to tune in to your own body and feel what is right for you. Trust yourself and spirit, and ask your guides to lead you to the right service and healer.
6. Be aware and open. Going into a healing session with curiosity and an open mind is key. Note what you have been feeling or thinking, or where you've been challenged leading up to it. Note what led you to want a session. This awareness will help you make faster connections in your session.
7. Know when to move on. We all have many different mentors, teachers and facilitators throughout our life's journey, each with their own unique skill set to offer us. Not all relationships are meant to last. Some may be for years, while others may be more short-term. It's important to honor when someone has served a purpose in your life and to let go and move on. This honors a beautiful divine rhythm where we are always recognizing and valuing each other's gifts and evolution.
8. Love yourself enough to make the time. Life is busy and we all have many tasks and commitments to manage in a day. But you can choose to make 30 or 60 minutes of self-care time when you need it. If you can't or won't, that sends the wrong signal out to the universe. If you don't make the time the stresses will only compound and you'll create more work for yourself. If you feel unsettled and are proactive about seeking support you can stay on top of things and avoid unnecessary stress and suffering.
9. Don't ask about others. You booked the session for you and it should be about you. Asking about other people in a healing session sways you off track from receiving what you need. A healer makes a concerted effort to connect with and ground into your personal energy and guides. When you ask about others you pull the healer out of that connection and they have to work harder to reconnect. It's nice to want the best for others and it's normal to be curious. But in respecting free will, a healer shouldn't be going into anyone else's energy without their permission. And since we are always projecting in relationships, you will always find the answers you're looking for in your own energy. When asking about others in a session you create a boundary issue, both for the person you're asking about, as well as for your healer.
10. Create a sacred space. There is a big difference between having a session in your office where you have distractions, noise and could be interrupted at any moment versus being relaxed in the comfort of your own home, curled up with a blanket and a 'do not disturb' sign on the door. Your session is a time of self-care and it should be in a private space where you can feel engaged, comfortable and receptive.