This week's theme brought up a resurgence of something that happens a lot in the healing community: energy invasion. This occurs when someone sends healing to someone else or shares intuitive information without consent. There are varying degrees of opinions about the proper boundaries with this but my personal belief is that you should never work on someone's energy or share information without their permission. Most of the time this happens with a very positive intention, the person invading wants to help someone they believe is in need of it. But even if you want to help someone, it's not your place. I've experienced this discomfort and fear from others when meeting new people. They learn what I do and their first questions are: Are you reading my mind? What are you picking up? I've always found this funny because not only do I respect boundaries but the last thing I want to do is go swimming in someone else's psyche during my downtime. I enjoy balance and while I'm always more than happy to answer questions about my work, it's a common misperception that I want to jump into everyone's energy and start working away. I do appreciate the curiosity, and love the enthusiasm. Over the years I've mastered the art of turning it on and off at will.
I'll share just one example I've witnessed of energy invasion. I was in Hawaii taking the Doreen Virtue mediumship course, back in the day. My sister was on the trip with me and made some friends during the day while I was in class. We were having dinner and one of our new friends shared that a student from the course had stopped him randomly as he was walking through the resort and started talking about his kids, giving messages of guidance about his daughter. He shared that she wasn't inaccurate in her information, his daughter was going through a troubling time, but that it made him uncomfortable because it caught him off guard. He wasn't sure how to handle it. I remember being upset hearing about this because it was not only disrespectful to walk up to a complete stranger and start reading their family but also because it's this kind of action that gives healers a bad rap. Classic energy invasion. This busy dad to several kids was on vacation, this wasn't something he wanted to think about at that moment. And it was none of the student's business. Do I think the student had ill intentions? Not at all. I think her enthusiasm got the better of her and she wasn't grounded.
A lot of people will argue that it's okay to send energy healing to someone because their higher self can choose whether or not they receive it. But I think that's a bit cheeky. It's still straddling a line, isn't it? It's more about satisfying your need to feel like you've done something. The one exception I see with this is if you're working on a family healing or a couples healing and the energy of the partner or children shows up strongly in the session. Then you might set an intention of saying if your free will wishes to receive in tandem to this healing you can. But still, I wouldn't directly shift focus and work on their energy because it's not their session of course. And as I always say, when you work on a family it's like skipping a rock, it has a natural ripple effect anyways. Every member of the family is a strand in one big web. If one strand is moving, the rest will feel it on some level.
If you see someone struggling and are worried, the best option is to ask the person if they would like some support or some healing sent their way. And then most importantly, hear what they say. Respect their free will. If they say yes, great, set up a time and go for it. And if they say no, respect it and let it go. If they don't say anything, they may like the idea but aren't ready yet, so again, let it go. If it's not a yes, it's a no. Present the offer and wait for them to pick it up.
A respectful alternative is to pray for someone, as this can be done without interfering in their journey or process. It's one thing to hold someone in your thoughts and prayers. It's another to be in their energy body. Even though you may have a loving intention if you are repeatedly suggesting healing to someone it will have the opposite effect, it will register as judgment. What they may hear is: You don't think it's okay to feel how I feel, or to be where I'm at. You think I need to be different or that my life isn't okay how it is. It's arrogant to assume you know what someone else needs. The majority of the time if someone is struggling it is because they are experiencing their shadows and moving through a very necessary learning experience. Who has the right to rob them of that? I understand how hard it is to watch someone you love suffer but remember that suffering is strength begging to be born. If you push, they may feel obligated or pressured to cave and receive something they never wanted in the first place. And you don't want to engage in an exchange of energy rooted in guilt, resistance or force. It will be exhausting for you and disempowering for them. The key ingredient to healing is the participant's willingness and desire for it.
It's worth sharing as well that when someone has experienced a really great healing session or workshop, their excitement can get the better of them. In their enthusiasm they want everyone else to experience the same joy and empowerment. It's natural as you've been in a light vibration and are coming off a spiritual high. But I always encourage you to share your passion and joy, while being conscious of not pushing things on others. Celebrate it as the personal gain it is for you. And by all means spread the word and highly recommend it from a place of authentic sharing. And then trust that if someone is interested, they'll ask you for more information, or check it out in their own time. There's a big difference in energy between saying: I just loved this workshop, I feel so good right now. Here's the info if you ever feel inclined to check it out. Versus: You should really take this workshop. You need it, it would help you. One is sharing, the other is projecting.
So to sum it up, respect the free will of others. It allows both of you to enjoy a healthier relationship, rooted in boundaries and trust.
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