Do you want a medium, psychic, channeller or healer? And what is the difference? I see many people get understandably confused not knowing what type of healer they are looking for, or what service they need.
You'll hear multiple titles used for one healer, or listed on one website because most healers have multiple strengths and offer more than one service. But not everyone is clear on what they offer versus their capabilities. For example, I'm all of the titles listed below but I don't offer all of them as services. I always recommend it is best to seek someone who is trained in the area you're looking for and who does that work full-time. For example, I can do mediumship but I'm not interested in offering mediumship readings so if someone contacts me looking for that I recommend they seek a full-time medium who has made that training their priority. It's difficult to label yourself as a healer because you're trying to take something that exists without limits and put it into a context so it can be understood and received as much as possible. So as a practitioner who may be capable of multiple healing modalities you want to choose what best describes your strengths and services in order to reach your audience and connect with the right clients to be of optimal service. So let's quickly look at some of the most common titles you'll see.
When you're looking for a practitioner you first and foremost want to trust your gut. You will be drawn to the right healers at the right time if you are willing to ask, listen and trust. If you aren't sure ask the practitioner if what you're looking for is what they offer. A healer in their integrity will be honest and if they're not the right fit they'll encourage you to keep looking. I have no problem turning away clients that aren't a resonant match as it's in the greatest good for both of us. There are plenty of qualified healers offering a wide variety of services so ask spirit to connect you with the right one for you and follow the flow of synchronicity as you are led to them.
I had fun with the blog post for this week. I channel the elementals on a regular basis and they use a lot of the same words repetitively. Here's a list of the top 10 words they most often use and love. As well as a little message or description from them alongside each word.
I was also curious how they themselves would define an elemental. I asked and they all shared different answers in simple, short and sassy elemental style. A couple of noteworthy traits before you read on, the elementals talk fast, and they don't talk over one another, but they don't pause in between either. You'll find one answer flows immediately into the next.
Me: How would you describe an elemental?
Elementals: A necessity, something of profound essence.
A magic maker!
A believer in and champion of the greater good.
Earth Mother's child and devotee.
A benevolent being often confused with being dark or dangerous.
A steward of the earth, a bringer of the light.
A friend, if treated correctly.
There are common phrases and words you'll hear used repeatedly in healing and spiritual circles. If you are new to healing you may find yourself asking: But what does that actually mean? Let's address some of the most common terms below.
1. Be committed. We are multi-layered beings and healing happens in layers. It's unrealistic to think you can come to a session having never previously worked on yourself and expect to heal 10 or more years' worth of suffering in 60 minutes. Commit to the process. There is no finish line in healing, you are never truly done. You will be learning and growing always, constantly adapting and integrating.
2. Your facilitator is not your friend. You would never call up your doctor outside of business hours to hang out or expect to linger after your appointment for a personal chat. When doing spiritual energy work you are experiencing a high vibration and a joyful one. You are opening up more so than usual and sharing a vulnerable and intimate experience with a stranger. People often confuse the healer as being their source of joy. But it's important to remember that they are a facilitator and not a friend. Having professional boundaries is essential to a healthy client/healer relationship.
3. If you are friends or family of a healer, treat it as if you weren't. Respectfully ask if the healer is comfortable working with family and friends. If so, follow their regular booking method like every other client. Pay up front without them having to ask. Don't ask for or expect a discount and don't expect them to rearrange their schedule and rush you in. If they offer a discount or do make space outside of business hours, make sure the agreement is clear, and be sure to acknowledge the gesture with a thank you afterwards. Otherwise, you can risk hurting the relationship by not respecting their time, energy and services.
4. Do your research. Some people book a service without reading the website or understanding what a session involves. You will get more out of a session if you show up with a general understanding of the healer, the service they provide, and what to expect during an appointment. Being prepared allows you to enter into a session and get right down to work, maximizing your time, as opposed to spending time going through unnecessary explanations.
5. Make a personal choice. It's common for people to recommend a healer or service they have had a great experience with, or for people to ask a healer for a recommendation. But just because that service or healer worked for someone else, doesn't mean it is necessarily the right fit for you. And just because a healer gives you a name or recommendation doesn't mean they know what is best for you. Be sure to tune in to your own body and feel what is right for you. Trust yourself and spirit, and ask your guides to lead you to the right service and healer.
6. Be aware and open. Going into a healing session with curiosity and an open mind is key. Note what you have been feeling or thinking, or where you've been challenged leading up to it. Note what led you to want a session. This awareness will help you make faster connections in your session.
7. Know when to move on. We all have many different mentors, teachers and facilitators throughout our life's journey, each with their own unique skill set to offer us. Not all relationships are meant to last. Some may be for years, while others may be more short-term. It's important to honor when someone has served a purpose in your life and to let go and move on. This honors a beautiful divine rhythm where we are always recognizing and valuing each other's gifts and evolution.
8. Love yourself enough to make the time. Life is busy and we all have many tasks and commitments to manage in a day. But you can choose to make 30 or 60 minutes of self-care time when you need it. If you can't or won't, that sends the wrong signal out to the universe. If you don't make the time the stresses will only compound and you'll create more work for yourself. If you feel unsettled and are proactive about seeking support you can stay on top of things and avoid unnecessary stress and suffering.
9. Don't ask about others. You booked the session for you and it should be about you. Asking about other people in a healing session sways you off track from receiving what you need. A healer makes a concerted effort to connect with and ground into your personal energy and guides. When you ask about others you pull the healer out of that connection and they have to work harder to reconnect. It's nice to want the best for others and it's normal to be curious. But in respecting free will, a healer shouldn't be going into anyone else's energy without their permission. And since we are always projecting in relationships, you will always find the answers you're looking for in your own energy. When asking about others in a session you create a boundary issue, both for the person you're asking about, as well as for your healer.
10. Create a sacred space. There is a big difference between having a session in your office where you have distractions, noise and could be interrupted at any moment versus being relaxed in the comfort of your own home, curled up with a blanket and a 'do not disturb' sign on the door. Your session is a time of self-care and it should be in a private space where you can feel engaged, comfortable and receptive.
In Ancient Rome a Vestal Virgin was a virgin consecrated to the goddess Vesta and vowed to chastity, responsible for maintaining the sacred fire burning on the goddess's altar. The Vestals were freed of the usual social obligations to marry and bear children, and took a vow of chastity in order to devote themselves to the study of state rituals that were off-limits to the male colleges of priests. Their person was sacrosanct and they were the only women allowed to own property.
The house and temple of the Vestal Virgins was my favorite place in the Forum, the city centre of Ancient Rome. Being a sun sign and a feminist, my inner Leo and Goddess loved the idea of these Goddesses of the hearth maintaining the sacred fire that kept the city secure, freed them of typical obligations and allowed them access to knowledge and ownership outside of the patriarchal system. Go ladies! I feel like part of that feminist spark was in the message I channelled that said: 'a twinkle in the eye.' There was that quiet respect but a spark of fiery freedom.
While in the House of the Vestal Virgins the word that came through was: reprieve. This place felt feminine, positive, joyful, lighter and quieter than the surrounding structures and areas. I kept smelling and seeing visions of lavender in my mind’s eye. Later on, I looked it up out of curiosity and found that lavender was dedicated to Vesta and her Vestal Virgins, which is pretty cool!
Porta Alchemica, known as the Alchemist's Gate or Magic Portal, was another unexpected and amazing stop we ended up making during our Rome trip. It's a bummer that it's gated and you can't get close enough to see the details and symbols on the door but I did place my hand on the back of the wall and found my own moment of connection.
The Alchemist’s Gate is one of five former gates that remained in the villa. Legend has it that a pilgrim was hosted in the villa for the night, identified later by some as the alchemist Giuseppe Francesco Borri. He searched the gardens of the villa overnight in search of a mysterious herb capable of concocting gold. The next morning he was seen to disappear forever through a door, but left behind a few flakes of gold, the fruits of a successful alchemical transmutation, and a mysterious paper full of puzzling symbols and equations describing the ingredients and process required.
The guardians on either side of the door are said to represent Bes. Bes is an ancient Egyptian deity worshiped as a protector of households, mothers and children, and childbirth. Bes later came to be regarded as the defender of everything good and the enemy of all that is bad. I found the energy to be charming, exciting and friendly.
Here's what I channeled:
Santa Maria della Concezione dei Cappuccini, or Our Lady of the Conception of the Capuchins, is a church in Rome whose most famous feature is the crypt that houses the bones of over 4,000 friars in elaborate displays.
Visiting the museum and crypt of the Capuchins wasn't initially on our list of things to do but it ended up being a very transformative and healing experience for me. It was an unexpected and significant integration of my pagan and religious lifetimes, as was my entire experience in Rome.
I didn't expect much walking through the museum, as I was only really eager to see the crypt and bones. However, it was during my walk through the museum that I experienced a shift. This message came through in regards to paganism and religion and past life wounds:
It's time to make peace with your past. Who you thought hurt you in fact shared your beliefs. Forgive them and the seeming difference. The people who hurt you didn't follow the truth, nor practice the love. They were those who got lost and thought to create their own divine order. The holy ones are no less holy. Just because we call it something else, doesn't mean it is something else. It's the definition that creates separation.
Some visitors find the crypt to be creepy, but the only thing Elliott and I found creepy about the whole experience was a couple of 17th-century dolls made to depict baby Jesus. Let's just say doll making has come a long way since then! Some visitors describe the crypt as horrifying, but again, Elliott and I found that the feel of the crypt wasn’t morbid at all, but rather celebratory of life and a testament to the devotion and love the friars had for their fellow human beings. And that is precisely what the Capuchin order is about – love of Jesus and his sacrifice, and love for their fellow man. Elliott and I found the elaborate displays of the friars’ bones not a horrifying warning of death but rather a stark reminder that life is temporary and that there is eternal life beyond the bone. The Capuchin crypt is a potent reminder of our own mortality.
What stood out most to us from all of the detailed displays in the crypt was an hourglass with wings on either side, with the accompanying message being:
Time doesn't pass us by, it flies.
There were also many eight-pointed stars symbolizing eternity and infinity, the clear Christian belief in the resurrection. There were also many sacred hearts and flowers made from the bones, as well as the trinity symbol repeated throughout. All the friars wore their robes, hoods, and ropes with three knots.
Another powerful image for us was a skeleton holding a scythe and hanging from the ceiling, with the accompanying message being:
Life cuts everyone down like wheat in a wheat field.
In the other hand, the skeleton held the scales, showing that every soul would have their earthly deeds weighed.
I couldn't help but marvel and wonder at the time, effort and dedication it would have taken to create such displays. There are many theories as to why such displays were created. The most prominent theory is that a friar seeking asylum at the church during the French Revolution created the displays from the bones of friars exhumed from burial sites. But no one really knows why he did it. Was it a show a veneration? A display of artistic talent? Or a play on our mortality?
Whatever the reason, the crypt is interesting, intense, eye-catching, and, best of all, motivating as you come face to face with mortality and the vivid reminder that life is temporary. Overall, I would describe it as a positively chilling experience.
When Elliott and I stepped back outside we looked up and saw the words ‘time, time, time’ written in different tenses across the side of the building next to the church, and it reminded us of the hourglass with the wings. Here was another message that reminded us to be mindful of our mortality and to enjoy the life we lead, because, as it said in the crypt:
What you are now, we used to be. What we are now, you will be.
Glendalough is known as 'the valley of the two lakes' in Wicklow Mountains National Park. It is also where you'll find the ancient monastic settlement of St. Kevin.
Glendalough was beautiful and was one of the places that every Irish person assured us we had to visit and would most enjoy. Walking through, it reminded me a lot of the trails and foliage here in Victoria, BC. I found the lakes and rivers in Ireland to be especially sacred. They had an energy and peace about them that was undeniable. The rivers are named after Goddesses, each with their own mythical story, and you can certainly feel their beauty and power. Elliott and I threw a few coins in a couple of the rivers, as an offering with blessings and gratitude for the Goddess, Elementals, and Pagan Ancestors. I came up with our own little ritual of each kissing our coins before clinking them together and then throwing them in, and sealing it with a kiss between Elliott and I. Then we would pause and take a moment to just be present. It just so happened that we always ended up feeling guided to do this while standing on a small bridge over a river. Elementals love intersections and in between points such as bridges, mounds, and where water meets land or elements crisscross, so I suppose it's not that surprising.
Walking through Glendalough I felt I was deep in fairy land. The presence of the Elementals was strong and there were numerous rock and tree spirits eager to say hello. There was a substantial elemental energy that hung in the air just like the mist. I channelled this message while we were in the forest:
A leaf will wave at you in the wind, will you say hello? If not, it may be time for you to slow. Follow us through the forest, we promise to light the way. Give into our magic as you surrender the day. Leave all your troubles behind you for the forest knows no pain. It holds all the wisdom that from experience you're bound to gain. If ye' don't believe in us, might we say it's your loss. For a little bit of magic, you'll be surely cost.
As we walked back to the entrance I noticed a labyrinth and, having a love for walking labyrinths, I decided to walk it and channel another small message:
What is fear but an ugly word? If it needn't be spoken, it needn't be heard. Faith is what matters, with it, you'll fly high! When did you stop believing you could touch the sky? Be not afraid of abundance and what ye' can create. You need only pass through the veil, the eternal granting gate.
Visiting the monastic settlement of St. Kevin was an enjoyable experience and I didn't ask to receive a message there but one came through to me as I was leaving:
Life is for the living, dance through the sad and you needn't search for happy.
It was an interesting message given that we'd just walked through all the gravestones. I love this message as I believe that the more you try to attain happiness the further you'll get from it. As the monks shared in their message, happiness is being present to and appreciating the rightness of all aspects of life. To dance through the sad is to find the light in the dark, and then happiness is no longer a feeling merely being chased after but a natural joy inherent in the opportunity presented to feel, experience, learn and grow.
I live for folklore, fables, myths and legend. I am a believer that every fable comes from a seed of truth. And, as in my series, I love moralistic lessons wrapped up and delivered in colorful, entertaining and fun ways! That is why kissing the Blarney Stone was one of the many pagan rituals on my bucket list.
The official Blarney Castle website explains that a witch saved from drowning revealed the stone’s magical powers to the MacCarthys. After kissing the stone, Lord MacCarthy received the gift of gab and was able to keep his land, and his head, by impressing Queen Elizabeth I of England with his eloquent speech.
Upon hearing you’ve kissed the Blarney Stone, everyone seems to have the same question – Do they wash it? Well, as I was first standing in line on the ground I saw water fall, and I saw the man who holds you as you kiss the stone, had splashed it with some water from a small water bottle and gave it a quick rub with a cloth, but that was only once, and hundreds of people kiss it every day! I consider myself a bit of a germaphobe when travelling, I’ll use antibacterial wipes on my plane seats, I’m all about the hand sanitizer, daily Emergen-C, anything to avoid getting ill while on holiday, but I never once gave thought to germs on the Blarney Stone. Besides, if inheriting the gift of gab is a real thing then surely it would be worth a temporary little bug. So no, they don’t wash the stone repeatedly.
What I didn’t expect was how nerve wracking the process of kissing the stone would be. You make your way up the very narrow stairwell and small steps of the castle’s tower with a rope to hold onto once in awhile. In order to kiss the Blarney Stone you have to lie on your back, grip the cold metal bars. wiggle backward toward the wall of the castle, and lean down with your head dipped over the grate, dangling 37 feet above the ground in order to reach it. There is a man there to hold you but it still made my heart leap a little. It pays to be a bit taller as the shorter you are the farther back you have to lean. I remember thinking, how am I not reaching it yet?! And then pushing through the nerves to lean even further back. But the feel of my lips finally meeting the cold dark sacred limestone was so worth it!
It was certainly a more commercial experience, with nearly a two-hour wait in line, but kissing the Blarney Stone was still one of my favorite experiences during my visit to Ireland. Although I did wake up from a night terror about a witch later that night. Go figure!
Here's the message I chanelled from the elementals:
We like to rhyme, it never gets old, kiss the stone and the gift of gab you’ll hold. The power of persuasion through the beauty of words, smooch it just once and you’ll be well heard. Language is an art not to be taken for granted, eloquent speech is for the enchanted.
Newgrange (Irish: Sí an Bhrú) is a prehistoric monument in County Meath, Ireland, located about one kilometre north of the River Boyne. It was built during the Neolithic period around 3200 BC, making it older than Stonehenge and the Egyptian pyramids. http://www.newgrange.com/
Newgrange was by far the most powerful and blessed experience Elliott and I had at a sacred site. Because it's sacred, naturally you aren't allowed to take pictures inside. The chamber can only hold so many people at a time so you go in groups of smaller numbers. We were part of the second group, and it started pouring down rain, so while we waited the ten to fifteen minutes we got fully drenched. To be honest, I liked it. Thus far we had had great weather in Ireland – sunshine and not much rain – so I felt it was only right I had the true wet and rainy Irish experience. And to have it on a memorable day such as visiting Newgrange made it that much richer. There were several people upset about how soaked they were, and some after the tour were even angry about it. It reminded me of a part in my first book where Deliah is trying to cover herself from a downpour while Ostephen, her fairy companion, happily flies through it. He stops and laughs at Deliah being slowed by the rain as he teaches her to see it as a gift. Deliah then lets go and enjoys splashing in the rain, able to easily keep up with Ostephen. It's all about perspective. Don't get me wrong, I understand wet and cold clothes might not be the most desirable feeling but clothes do dry and it's an experience. It's all about perspective my friends!
When you enter the chamber the guide warns you that if you are claustrophobic you will want to stay at the back of the line in case you can't make it through and need to turn back. The entrance is very small. You have to duck and turn sideways several times to pass through. The further you step in the more you get that feeling of 'there's no turning back now' but my desire to experience Newgrange far outweighed any small feelings of claustrophobia. It's about 19 meters before you come through the passage and enter into the chamber where you can then stand tall with plenty of room above you. The passage and chamber are aligned with the rising sun at the Winter Solstice.
Once inside the chamber I noticed a big rock spirit face in the middle near the very top. Elliott noticed a small rock spirit on the left and I also saw a small alien head shape on the right on a rock. The words most people use to describe Newgrange are positive and powerful. And I couldn't agree more. As the elementals share in the channelled message below, not knowing the truth and the facts of Newgrange is part of the beauty, but there is a common perception that it represents Mother Earth's womb – the mound being her pregnant belly and the small narrow entrance the birth canal. This felt accurate to me; there is definitely an intention and belief in rebirth and this was what came through in my channelled message as well. I felt renewed after visiting it, I was on a spiritual high. I found it interesting in the message I channelled before entering that they mentioned that where we start we also end. And in the guide's talk she used those exact words. She said that despite all the things we don't know, the one thing we do know for sure is that the ancients knew where and when the sun started and where and when it ended. I also thought of the term ‘light chasers’ that you often hear used in spirituality, as they were 'chasing' and worshipping the sun. I think this is proof that while time may cause us to approach and experience things in new ways, the eternal drive remains the same.
At one point inside the chamber, the guide turns out the lights, letting you experience what it feels like to be in the total darkness of the tomb before the guide turns on a light that shines through the entrance, just as the sun would on Winter Solstice. It was pure magic to see that crack of light and feel the power of it. I can only imagine being inside on Winter Solstice with the light coming from the sun itself. Neither Elliott nor I wanted to leave. We both felt such an incredible life force energy that we found ourselves longing to linger in it. I almost didn't want to blog about it as words can't do it justice. You can feel both so small and humbled standing in something so grand and significant and yet so big and powerful as you feel the incredible impact of the sacred passed down through the ages.
The grandness of life is encapsulated here. It holds the grand, the mystery, the vastness. It honors the guessing game us elementals are known for. How was it built? Why? The not knowing is the beauty. The dream and desire to look back and wonder is the magic. As above, so below, where we start, we end. The continuity of life is what we hope you'd come to believe after witnessing this grandeur. -Sep 12/16